Wednesday, February 5, 2014

Is He into Me?

This is my first entry for the month of February. And since Valentine's Day is just a week away, I will talk wistfully about "LOVE" and its baffling issues to girls, well, including me, who are quite unsuccessful in the field of romance.

For every girl who had been so impatiently waiting for ages to find someone to be with, the question "Is He into Me" sounds like the most agonizing thing to contemplate whenever a man with a confusing motive strikes in the horizon. So confusing that answers to this question appear to be as elusive as the idea of finding “The One”.

I already surpassed the critical stage of a woman's life where the craving of marrying is as urgent as waiting for the next bus ride during rush hour, still I cannot help but wonder why the world is a little unfair to me :-P

While other girls changed boyfriends as fast as they changed underwear, I am yet to go out for my first date. Gosh! Can you believe it? At this stage of my existence??? Well, life is just so mysterious and boys' preference in women is as bizarre as life itself. 

Last night, I watched The 700 Club Asia and so amused with the topic of the night” Why is there a man and He is not mine”. You know that perplexing thought of attraction and body language and all those felt-like-seemed-like actuations, then suddenly you realized it's pretty stupid to wait for something that has never been there in the first place.

Then the hosts, Peter Kairuz and Camilla Kim-Galvez, uttered something that's so quite familiar "DON'T ASSUME"boooom!! 

Unless a man say it specifically that he likes you, then don't really assume...if everything fails, just wait for God to direct you to a grander plan.

“Waiting on God requires the willingness to bear uncertainty, to carry within oneself the unanswered question, lifting the heart to God about it whenever it intrudes upon one's thoughts.” 
- Elisabeth Elliot


And so here I am, not sure what to do whether to wait or just explore the world and accept my destiny as it is. While searching for something interesting online, I landed at girlsguideto.com and found self-pondering thoughts about “He is not just into You”. This is worthy to share so that, according to the site, “girls will not waste their time with a guy who is not worthy of attention and affection and whose desire darted elsewhere”.

HE IS NOT INTO YOU...

1. If he's not asking you out.
If a man is excited about a woman, he can’t stop himself— he wants more and he’s going to want to take it further. If he’s not making a move, it’s not because he is ‘scared’. The only thing he is scared of is how not attracted to you he is.


2. If he’s not communicating with you.

He says he did not have a moment in his busy day to call or text you, then you will find out he is frantically texting and communicating nonstop to someone over there. The real reason is that you are not on his mind, and would not want to talk to you.  Beware, this guy is very comfortable with the idea of disappointing you. Save yourself from heartache. Move on.



3. If he makes lots of empty promises.

He keeps talking as if you have a future, but he takes little or no action. He talks about having a future together or all the fun things you will soon, but he doesn’t plan a date! Some men promise the moon, sun and stars, but deliver…nothing! Think about this. If he can’t come up with a few things that make you swoon despite his pocketbook, he isn’t that into you.


4. If he makes last minute plans to see you.
You are just so glad he calls that you don’t realize he is definitely not that into you or he thinks that you have no life and would be readily available anytime. Either way, if you accept, you aren’t scoring any points. You were probably one of the women in his “little black book” and not his first call.

5. If he avoids the “getting-to-know you” conversations!
He really does not want to get to know you better because if he does, he will ask questions about you, your life and what you want, curious to find out the real you. If not, then, well, he is not just into you.

6. If you initiate and he doesn't follow through.
If you're really into a guy and you think he may be shy, try initiating a conversation, phone call or texting session. If you start the conversation, he'll want to continue it. However, if he doesn't return your calls or texts or tries to end the conversation quickly, it's a red flag sign that he is not into you. So move on. There are still plenty of worthy things to work on.

7. If he says he just wants to be friends.
Urggh!! But yeah, he means it. Don't look for excuses. If you think being friends and too familiar will lead to more wonderful, it won’t. He isn’t into you in almost every case. When he finds someone who rocks his world, you are history.

8. If he keeps searching for a woman who can meet his criteria.
Or you even catch him at it, he’s not ready to settle down with you. Even if he still maintains inappropriate contact with ex-girlfriends or even with women in his circle, he’s not ready to invest time in you or ready to have any kind of future. Oh girl wake up! He’s just not worth your time. If he continue looking for someone else, save yourself from heartaches and move on. You’ll find someone who will be so thankful for you and will accept you just as you are even if you have no astounding achievement in life or have no riches to boast.

9. If he does not want to marry you.

If the guy will say he does not want to get married or does not believe in marriage, or has ‘issues’ with marriage, will, rest assured, someday he will get married, sadly, to someone else and not to you.

10. If he seems irritated whenever you ask something
Let's admit it, a guy who likes you, is always available when there's something you needed and will be willingly help you. But if someone sounds easily annoyed when you ask something, but then very available to other women's inquiries, it's a clean sign that he is not into you.

Okay, girls, can you finally gauge your man's real intention if he is really into you?

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