Monday, September 4, 2017

Jeff Turns 28 Today!

Yes, this debonair guy celebrates his birthday today. And that’s something very significant to pay tribute with. Because he is such an amazing person. My close connection with him is so precious I could waste my entire day writing birthday wishes for him in my websites. We’ve gone through many weekend food crawls and he has been so kind enough to take spectacular shots for my TRAVEL BLOG.

Meeting people never just happen. Circumstances allow the encounter to take place for some reasons. Most of the time, a very significant reason. May it be a lesson to live by or a blessing to keep. And I felt truly blessed and lucky to meet this extraordinary person whose personality radiates with so much compassion and kindness.

This is part of the special ARTICLE LINK WHEEL I did for his birthday.

I don't have anything to give him for his special day today. We're miles away at the moment. So I'll just write an open letter for him. 

Happy Birthday Jeff!

I could not think of anything to help ease the sorrow you've gone through on your father’s abrupt passing, but I am hoping words can cheer you up. You’re still undergoing the process of acceptance and coming to terms with the painful death, so I am very careful not to mess up with words.

I wish I could give you something special to mark your birthday but I am afraid I could not find one that suits your preferences. I wish to bake goodies for you but my baking skill is still terrible, I might end up baking pancakes instead of cupcakes. Moreover, we might not meet in the coming weeks or months because you’re still in the process of emotional transition and adjustment and you need a lengthy moment of silence. 

So I thought of something else. Writing a link wheel for you in my two sites. Something I rarely did ;-)

I hope this birthday featured post won’t cringe you in embarassment haha! I just want to remember your birthday in the most fascinating way, something different. Something that would not fade in the coming decades. And something you always remember when you drop by in my websites. Blogs never vanish unless the site is taken down or post is deleted.

You have welcomed your 28th birthday in what could have been one of the most trying times in your life. The transition of emotion is always difficult. But I am wishing you can carry it well. You’re a strong person with a positive disposition in life.

Sometimes I would think how are you doing, or how are you coping with the pain, and thought of asking you but then I respected your privacy. You need enough time with yourself, spending in silence and alone. The road to recovery is not easy.

So here, I’ll just write everything I wanted to say, every wish I wanted to extend, to let you know how much I care. Even in silence. I am always grateful with your friendship, you’re such a gracious person and a perfect gentleman. A very polite one, well-mannered and highly cultured. You epitomizes gallantry, like one of those grand dukes in fairytale books (I used grand duke, because in European royalty standard, it ranks higher than a prince :-D).

The impression of happiness and celebration sounds absurd at the moment due to the sorrow you’ve gone through, but I still wish you a happy day today. May you’ll be blessed with the gift of stillness with a peaceful of mind and heart, a healthy body, and a richer wisdom.

My connection with you is so very precious, something I would always cherish in the future. I’ve never been close to a guy before because of uneasiness issue. I don’t easily trust someone. I always find it very uncomfortable to engage in a conversation or go somewhere else with a guy. So I have no idea how to interact without being nasty, but with you I was able to cross the barrier with so much easiness. I’ve never encountered a guy who is as compassionate as you. That’s why I feel so lucky to have you in my small, shaky, tight world.

I am also battling with apprehension. I find it uneasy to communicate with people who never shared the same interest and values with me. My reserved culture is always the sticking point. While liberated folks appreciated the atmosphere of bars and parties and enjoyed the night life and KTV lounges, I prefer to stay at home, do some baking, write books and play with my cats and dogs. Or pack and go somewhere else where I could be alone with nature. Others seem not comfortable with these life’s preferences. And this is where ridicule often starts, and it crashes me to the core.

But you’re different. I find you distinct from the rest. You understood me pretty well, and never judged me. With you, I found a great defender. You’re seem to be my rock. Our personalities complimented each other. We could talk anything under the sun with so much easiness and without any disagreement. We get along so perfectly. Like I am seeing the other side of myself in you.

Though I often wish we could spend more time together, going out on a food crawl or out-of-town trips and nothing will change in the coming days. There’s no assurance of anything. Life is full of surprises. Tomorrow might be different.

Each day, I always feel I am losing you to someone. The idea sounds horrible because I would be tossed back to my old self, doing some food trip on a weekend for my blog alone. But it’s a reality that I need to conform. I often have some difficulty dealing with emotional transition if I will be caught in surprise. So I am slowly preparing myself with that possibility now.

You’re always in my prayers. Every now and then when I pray, I always take time to offer special intentions for you. To ease the grief you felt. To grant the wishes that your heart silently desires. To shower you with more blessings. And to keep you healthy and safe all the time.

I am wishing that life will smile upon you today despite the sorrow you felt.

Happy Birthday!


Sunday, September 3, 2017

Social Decorum

Had some serious discernment lately.

Questioning myself who am I into this world, what’s my purpose, where my life is heading, and what direction to take to experience growth, both in my personal and professional life, and earned respect. 

I’m already in a state where “just playing around” no longer applies. Not that I am rushing into anything in life, but I figured, I should be making decisions now with a head sight of the future to make sense of my day to day life. 

True enough, we should never constantly bother ourselves with the grim idea of the future or put too much pressure on what lies ahead, because it might hamper our purpose of living at the moment, but the cardinal rule of life is, WE SHOULD SET GOALS. We should set priorities and work on it. This pattern will help us guide how to make right decisions and how to put some limitations.

Lately, I also realized that I don’t need too many people in my life to be happy and fulfilled, just a few one to enjoy precious moments. People who can truly understand my personality, who can appreciate my strangeness. I also acknowledged the importance of choosing who to be with. In as much as I wanted to be nice to the people I first met, the stark differences on personal growth and cultural orientation often come into the picture.

Wisdom is tricky, it is not acquired overnight nor over a glass of beer. We learned it by ourselves, through the lessons we learned in life, through reading good books, through experiences we gone through and through the right people we often go with.

The level of personal growth and the wisdom we gained sometimes depend on who are the people we welcomed into our circle. That’s why it is always an advantage if we surround ourselves with the right people, it will develop our personal learning and improve our wisdom. But if we welcomed wrong people in our circle who talked nothing but shallowness and which KTV lounges they will hang next weekend, it poses disaster. It would never really take us anywhere.

This contrasting view point is evident when we're in the group and engage on a conversation. I can easily tell if the person is a drifter, an impolite bastard who cared nothing in the world but personal pleasure and those who are sensible and with substance. Every minute is precious, having to spend it in such a useless discussion with futile people is completely a waste of time.

So I am making these notes to myself.

Next time I am in a group with people who have contrasting values, I’ll just hold my tongue and keep my mouth shut. It’s totally absurd if I would step down to their level of shallowness and thinking. They need more time to grow up personally and emotionally. They need to refine their behavior and how to interact with people for the first time. Because most of the time, people tend to forget their limitations and boundaries. 

It’s always painful to watch myself being gorged up with shallowness. It’s not that my social skill is awful or other people were raised in a more liberated environment, but there’s always a dark line of annoyance that emerges when they began to carp every inch of my being, as though I did something terrible in life because I did not conform with the current norms.

Then I’ll have to decide whether to endure the humiliation of their criticism and ridicule or it’s time to disappear. I want to avoid a situation where I would raise my voice, trying to defend my way of life because it’s totally senseless. I don’t owe anyone an explanation with the kind of principles I breathed. That’s part of my individuality that needs to be respected.

It’s always difficult to have a conversation with people who need more time to “grow up”, both in learning and acquiring wisdom. Those who are following a vulgar lifestyle would never understand the introverts. Having been used to the influence of shallow people who cared nothing in this world but party and night life pleasure, they would never understand the rules of correct decorum, dealing with new acquaintances.

Learning correct decorum and understanding the rules of etiquette are not entirely taught in school (unless you’re attending  a finishing school in Europe where children of aristocrats and royalty usually go to study social manners), you learned it by yourself. And it often shocked me to know that people are clueless about it.

I learned how to observe proper social decorum when I made an extensive research about the lives of European royals (that time I was writing the first few chapters of the book “The Queen Consort” which I momentarily shelve). For royalty and nobility, observing the rules of etiquette is necessary because people are expecting them to behave as such. Though wayward prince and princess are often heard in the social scene, misadventures of royals are always considered “low”.

Here’s one golden rule in social decorum that most ignorant people often overlooked, or have totally no knowledge about (except actor Ryan Agoncillo, I heard him uttered this rule on TV). It’s always rude for a man to ask a woman about her age. That’s totally discourtesy and lack propriety. The reason for this is that publicly, information like age, sex orientation, sexual preferences, civil status are considered sensitive and personal information that most people are not comfortable talking in public. It is considered blatant if you ask someone with something like that. 

In the world of social manners. asking someone with information he or she is not comfortable sharing in public is considered an act of plain rudeness. It lacks graciousness. You can check some best explanation from THE SPRUCE. And whether a woman is comfortable sharing personal information in public like age, the etiquette rule remains: It is improper and rude to ask a lady about her age, this according to Dianne Isbell of Belleville News.

Towards the end of the day, we can tell who among the people we met are courteous and who are those who have bad manners. We can never gain from their company. Nothing except tips on how to become tipsy. They are the people to be avoided.

Sunday, August 13, 2017

The Final Book of The Red Star Tattoo Conspiracy

The final book will be out soon!

More gripping revelation, more thrilling scenes as Bea De Leal-Gladstone fights to survive and continues with her quest to uncover the enigma of the red star tattoo in her shoulder. 

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